shouting hallelujah

She wished to say something very sensible but knew not how.

25 Aug Look at these handsome guys. (Before a catastrophic poo required a costume change for both.)

Look at these handsome guys. (Before a catastrophic poo required a costume change for both.)

22 Aug

A couple weeks ago, we headed down to Georgia so that Pip could meet the three great-grandparents he hadn’t met yet. John’s grandparents, a sight more mobile than my nana, came to visit us at the cabin where we stayed with John’s parents and sister, but to visit my nana, we had to pack up and drive a couple hours over the border to North Carolina.

On that drizzly afternoon, we were sitting there in Nana’s cramped living room, the contents of which are mostly unchanged from my childhood except that now Nana’s bed is there, too.

Nana, her Alzheimer’s advancing determinedly, kept asking  if we were going back to Florida soon, and I’d repeat that we’d lived in New England these last five years or so.

And one of those times, Nana embarked on a reminiscence about her mother-in-law and how she, Nana, had almost lived in New England as a newlywed. She concluded over her barbecue sandwich, “Sometimes it feels like it was all a dream.”

It was the perfect, movie-script thing to say, and I couldn’t forget it as our son slept on the ride home, as the sun won out against clouds, as we drove along mountain roads just beginning to hint at fall, by turns unchanged from my childhood, by other stretches unrecognizably altered.

The truth is, I’ve been feeling old this summer. Or “still young,” which is almost the same. There was the high school reunion. And the fact that 28 has socked me pretty hard, 27 passing in the sleep-deprived new-baby haze that it did.

I found myself that week in Georgia finally ready to be pregnant again, and then it turned out that I wasn’t. Just the other day, a 44-year-old friend had commented, “28! There’s so much of life ahead of you.” This is a realization that should be comforting but too often feels exasperating. Yeah. There is. And I want to know how it plays out. I’m getting older, but so much is still uncertain.

Wanting to be pregnant again is about a lot of things, motives pure and impure. I want what the 44-year-old has for her kid: a wriggling tribe of sibling-playmates. I also want soft milky sighs and wee onesies and roll upon roll of chubby baby thigh. But I think these perfectly legitimate longings could be balanced and made bearable if not for one other: I want it settled. I don’t want to wait. I want to know how it plays out. 

And seeing Nana in that little room, wistful over memories she couldn’t quite remember, I was reminded: It is a good thing to be patient, and to keep on dreaming.

22 Aug

Here are two pictures I took a couple weeks ago when we were in North Georgia and didn’t post. They’re late, but still great.

(The first is John’s grandma and grandaddy peering down at their first great-grandson, the goober pictured in picture no. 2.)

21 Aug

alethiosaur’s book meme

(I haven’t written much of substance and a bit, and I’m sorry. Summer reading, and lots of glorious basking in various locales with family.)

Tagged by alethiosaur, librarian, gardener, and owner of the world’s cutest dog. (Sorry, Bonnie.)

Rules: In a text post, list ten books that have stayed with you in some way. Don’t take but a few minutes, and don’t think too hard — they don’t have to be the “right” or “great” works, just the ones that have touched you. Tag [ten] friends, including me, so I’ll see your list. Make sure you let your friends know you’ve tagged them.

  1. Alas, Babylon,Pat Frank
  2. Harry Potter and the Sorcerer’s Stone, J.K. Rowling
  3. Mansfield Park, Jane Austen
  4. Radical Homemaking: Reclaiming Domesticity from a Consumer Culture, Shannon Hayes
  5. Operating Instructions: A Journal of My Son’s First Year, Anne Lamott
  6. Mere Christianity, C.S. Lewis
  7. Gilead, Marilynne Robinson
  8. Anne of Green Gables, L.M. Montgomery
  9. Paradise Lost, John Milton
  10. The Secret Garden, Frances Hodgson Burnett

Tagging… johnbowers, beca, archivalintegrity, karijetaime, cee-ee-cee, dover, elizabethjoyhooker, helenlindsay, gometacomet, kwafurther 

15 Aug




There’s this personality test I like to give and if you know me, you’ve probably experienced it. It’s pretty standard and enlightening in a way you’d expect it to be. The first question, “What is your favorite color? List three adjectives that describe your attraction to it,” probes how you see yourself and affect others. The second, “What is your favorite animal? List three adjectives that describe your attraction to it,” illuminates your romantic situation.

I’ve given the test at least 100 times. The first and only time (it only works the first time) I took the test was on a couch in Williamsburg in 2011. I was a week into my New York tenure, trying to sweat discretely in the home of a new friend.

My favorite color was and is still green, so that part was easy. The second question I hung on to for a moment. “A cat,” I answered finally. “Because they are independent, self-sufficient and make you work for their affections. Like, if a cat likes you, you earned it.”

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My little sister has always been, and is here, especially, a really beautiful writer.

07 Aug

Surely, surely, I’m not the only one who wears her frumpiest clothes in the days before travel, just to be sure all the good stuff is clean for packing?

05 Aug

Best thing/worst thing, 21 months

Worst: grimly collecting and hiding all the dump trucks as your bedtime baby Nazguls around your ankles wailing “DUMPPPPP!” because this is the consequence you threatened for failing to come quiet into the house for bedtime.

Best (10 minutes later): sitting with the boy in your lap when he lifts his hands wonderingly and says, “Hands. Two hands” and waves them experimentally and joyously.

28 Jul

Dear Pip,

To catch one summer cold may be regarded as misfortune; to catch two looks like carelessness.

15 Jul Sunday: the day Pip found a new driver and I realized I know more about the Quidditch World Cup than the Real World Cup.

Sunday: the day Pip found a new driver and I realized I know more about the Quidditch World Cup than the Real World Cup.

11 Jul

Advice, plz

Tell me things about toddlers escaping from cribs and how to ease the tradition. The dreaded day has come for this climber lad.

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